THE ANGEL FROM GOD

An Angel from God: She said, she came to see me, and had been there for about thirty minutes. She heard me talk­ing, she thought someone was with me. She got nearer and saw that I was sleeping and dreaming. The conversation between me and my mother was interesting. She felt it would be bad to break it. Then when I started crying in my dream and pleading with my mother, she could not help but woke me up. Looking into her eyes I saw tears, saw she must have been weeping silently with me.

 She opened the shopping bag she was carry­ing and brought out a beautiful dress and a nice pair of shoes. She asked me to get dressed. She said that I was going with her and she would take care of me since I had no one. She told me she was moved to tears the morning she saw me and that my story reminded her of her childhood experience. She was grateful to God for being able to come out of that situation.

Yes, initially I did not know her name. Tim­idly, I asked her name and she said I should call her Aunt Agatha. She was very beautiful. Aunt Agatha lost her mother at the age of eight too. Her relative that promised to look after her had subjected her to different forms of abuses - child labour, child slavery, etc. She could not escape her cruel aunt at her tender age. Her situation was more like that of a prisoner. Now she would not forgive herself if she left me behind for an­other day in the open and in the midst of so much danger. To her I was very lucky not to have fall­en into the hands of ritualists.

 Aunt Agatha wondered how many children were being subjected to the same conditions as myself daily. Only God knows how many might have died in a mysterious manner and how many were still being maltreated by their uncles, aunts and relatives, after assuring their parents that the children were in good hands and had a promising future. My adopted aunt was obvious­ly talking aloud to herself. I was watching every expression on her face. I could see some anger burning in her. She seemed a wealthy lady. The car she drove was very beautiful. She was equally a pretty lady. She seemed nice. 

Children have their guardian angels. I do pray to my guardian angel. Aunty Agatha looked nice to me but I still felt a little uncomfortable with her. I could not really describe how I felt. I did not feel any sign of danger or feel threatened yet my past experience with my mother’s relative, Aunt Nene, was still fresh on my mind and I wanted to be sure this Aunt Agatha was not going to be like her. 

A BEAUTIFUL STRANGER

David was arrested on Saturday night. On Sunday evening around 8p.m, a beautiful lady was passing by when she saw me sit­ting all by myself. I did not know that she had been watching me for a while. She came to me and greeted me. She asked why I was alone and enquired about my family. I told her I had none. She asked where I was staying. I told her that I have lived under the bridge for the past two years, and I have nowhere to go. She felt sorry for me. She asked if I have eaten. I told her I had not, and I equally told her about my adopted brother’s arrest. I could see that she felt sorry for me and she meant it. She brought out some money and asked me to look for something to eat. She said she would come back to see me the next day. She asked what my name was. I told her my name was Nkem, which means ‘mine’.

I heartily thanked her. Then I remembered my dream. I felt my mother was watching over me. The meal for the next day was assured by the benevolence of this beautiful stranger. I did not remember to ask her who she was, what her name was. I got carried away because of the as­surance she gave me to come looking for me the next day. I bought some bread and the normal bean cake. I felt I needed to save some money for other needs. I knelt down and thanked God for his providence, I thanked my spiritual Mother the Blessed Virgin Mary.

 

When I spoke out loudly to my biological moth­er whose presence I always feel, saying “Mother, I know you are nearby and always with me. You assured me of your guidance for a mother nev­er abandons her child. Ma, I feel your presence, your smile and your guiding spirit. Please, moth­er, do not leave me. Be with me in every journey I make.”  Before laying down to sleep, I prayed Psalm 23 ‘The Lord is my Shepherd’, and I asked our Blessed Mother, the Virgin Mary to watch over me. I learnt to befriend my guardian Angel. I prayed to my Angel for protection and guid­ance. I used my mother’s wrapper to cover my­self, and I slept with the assurance that tomorrow would be a better day.  

That night, I had a long conversation with my mother in my dream. ‘’Mother you said you would not abandon me when my aunty came for me. Why have you not kept your promise, moth­er? Presently I have no home. The bridge is my home. I am an outcast, insects are my companions and insecurity stares at me each day. Mother, now that you are here, will we be together again? Mother, you said yes that we are together. Will I wake up to realize that I am all alone in this strange universe though created in all its beauty, yet full of danger? I do hope I am not dreaming mother that you will not leave me all alone.”

Suddenly, someone was calling my name, shaking me to wake up. I did not know I was cry­ing in my sleep, pleading that my mother should stay with me. “Nkem, Nkem”, I heard my name. I opened my eyes, the lady who gave me money yesterday kept her word, she came visiting as she promised. It was day break, about 9a.m. It was very unusual. I normally wake up early. This very day, I was woken up by this ‘aunty’.

LIFE ON THE STREETS IN LAGOS

 Life on the Streets   I had no idea of where to go, neither did I have any idea on how to travel back to my home town and be with my mother. I wandered the whole day, hungry and I had no idea in what direction I was going but somehow I found myself in Lagos Island. I saw some children playing under the bridge. I joined them and one of them asked me where I was going to and where I was coming from. I told him my story. He was eating bread and akara (bean cake). He offered me some and I was very pleased to have something in my stom­ach. He was about twelve years old.

He said he too ran away from his cruel aunt that promised his mother on her death bed that she would look after him. The aunt gave his dy­ing mother the assurance that she would take care of him but the opposite was the case. The aunt subjected him to inhuman treatments. He would go out selling things for her. If certain amount of money were missing she would beat him and lock him outside without food. She equally denied him education. He showed me his back revealing marks of a cane. I felt sorry for him. Both of us had similar stories.

His parents too were very rich but they died leaving him with his cruel relatives who took away his father’s properties. What was left for him was his life. He was a very bright, and intelligent boy. He learnt to survive under the bridge as did other children of the same age group. There were older boys and girls too. David became like an elder brother to me. He made sure I was okay.

David could read and write because he at­tended one of the best primary schools in his hometown. He lost his father at the age of ten. Life had been so cruel to him. His ambition was to be an engineer, to take up his father’s line of work and build the family’s company, but all that was gone. All their properties were grabbed by his greedy relatives.

According to him, some street children got into stealing because of the situations in which they found themselves. Some girls slept around in order to get money to feed. He did some me­nial jobs to survive. He was often lucky because people saw him as a brilliant young chap. I guess his parent’s guiding spirits were with him.

Sometimes we went begging to get money to enable us buy our usual akara, akamu or rice. Sometimes we went washing plates for food ven­dors in exchange for food. David was the brother I was deprived of. He protected me from the oth­er street children. My street life, though uncom­fortable, was more secure than the home life I left in Victoria Island.

Sleeping under Lagos Island bridge was a big risk. Children were often harassed there. They were in danger of being kidnapped by ritualists or of being initiated into armed robbery, drugs and child prostitution. Some were in danger of being sold into slavery and were vulnerable to child trafficking syndicates. David, my adopted elder brother, was always around to protect me. He was an angel sent to me. I do not know how I could have survived in such an environment without him.

 The same adults that were the cause of most children living in such conditions, were the same people who chased them away, when they saw them begging for money and food. Some people were sympathetic though, while others were in­different. Some called them names, forgetting that the conditions in which the children found themselves were created by the same adults. Who could save these innocent souls from the corrupt and wicked ways of some evil men and women?

 As long as the actions of these men and wom­en are not checked, our world would be unsafe. The future of the younger generation is in danger, even of those who may be in their comfort zones. It is a vicious circle. The youths are getting old­er and most are yet to realise their dreams, both those on the streets and those who think they are in their comfort zones, whose greedy parents re­fuse to leave the scene of their governance, or­ganisations and parastatals for the younger ones. How do I know about this? We have some youths among us who are used by politicians to win elec­tions while their children are studying abroad. They told us how they are engaged to look for children and human beings that they need for their human sacrifices in order to win elections. What can a child or teenager do in such a situ­ation where he/she must fight to survive? Can one survive when in need of the basic necessities of life, to add to all the problems created by the loss of one’s parents at a tender age?  Psalm 27

MY NEW HOME

True aunty Nene and her husband were very rich and highly respected in the society. Their house was in Victoria Island  an area in Lagos largely occupied by the elite and middle class- and it had a servants’ quarters. They had two drivers and a cook, because my aunt and her husband were very busy people. Most of the time they were not at home. One would have imagined that with such opulence, I would have had my own room in the main house. Surprisingly, I was asked to share a room in the boys’ quarters with the cook who was a young lady called Betty. I was scheduled to work as one of the housemaids and as such the left over food was the meal I was entitled to. The cloths bought for me were taken away, and I was made to wear fitted adult cloths that my aunty did not need. 

I thought I would have access to children’s books based on the picture presented to my mother. From the day I stepped into my aunt’s house till the day I ran away, I never laid my eyes on any book. Not to mention going to school. Betty, besides being the cook, was in charge of cleaning the main house and she would often bring to our room old journals, newspaper and magazines for me to read. She understood my longing to go to school and since I could read at eight years of age, I took the opportunity to go through them after the daily chores. Most times I did not understand what I read, but I kept reading. This I discovered helped in my later years of studies, because some of the difficult words that I came across were not strange me.

Running Away from My New Home

At the age of ten, I had physical signs of puberty. I was growing breasts and looking beautiful. I never liked aunt Nene’s husband and I often tried to avoid him. He verbally abused me, calling me all sorts of names whenever he saw me around. I was afraid to tell my aunt for fear she would be angry with me. Whenever she travelled, I made sure I stayed out of sight. Psychologically I became ill which kept me away from the main house.

Betty being a good lady, was like the big sister I lost. She made sure I was fine. She prayed with me. We played together and I looked forward to assisting her. She bought me a little Bible as a gift. We often went to the market to shop for the items needed for the house. She was never tired of me. The sadness in my heart was the psychological abuse of which she was aware and being a servant, she dared not side with me or protect me or she would lose her job. Being an orphan her life in the house couldn’t be better. She was always happy and positive about life.

One day I was summoned by aunt Nene’s husband to help in the house because Betty took ill. My aunt was away on her usual long trips. She was sometimes away for a week or more. Betty and I made sure things were alright before we retired to our quarters. I followed him to the main house. To my surprise he invited me to the bedroom. I tried to decline for I felt I had no right to be there. Moreover, the bedroom was strictly under Betty’s care. She was responsible for the cleaning and making sure everything there was in place. So I really did not have any business being in this restricted area and I believed it was wrong of him to have invited into the bedroom at that hour, and in the absence of any adult, especially my aunt.

I stood by the door. He ordered me to come in. I tried to obey while silently praying because I was afraid and I felt insecure. He told me not to be afraid, that he would not harm me. He tried to be friendly and apologized for abusing me and all the maltreatment that he subjected me to in order to make me feel at ease. In my heart I was looking for an escape route because he was touching me in a manner that I did not like.  The fright in me was so intense I could almost imagine what his next move would be. Paralyzed by fright I was unable to move because I could not imagine that behind this so called respected man, was a devil, having no respect for a child’s innocence. He pulled me closer to him, I was rigid with fright. He kept touching me in an uncomfortable way and he wanted to undress me. I could not stand the  humiliation, and I remembered mother’s instruction that I should never allow anyone touch me in a way that made me feel uncomfortable. 

When I was a child she told me that it was important to live a holy life. The pride of every girl ought to be to preserve her purity and virginity till the right time in marriage. I saw my mother’s face and could hear her moral teaching. I could not imagine what my evil uncle was up to. In my own little way I struggled to be free from his uncomfortable embraces. He forced me onto the bed and covered my mouth to prevent me from screaming for help. What a horror for a child of ten! How do I get out of this ugly situation?  I remembered my rosary and I prayed to the Virgin Mary and asked for her assistance. Miraculously, I did not know where I got the strength from to fight him off me. In the course of my struggle with him, my dress was partly torn. Thank God I had my mother’s wrapper with me, because before going to bed I always used it to cover myself, to feel my mother’s presence.  

The next thing I did was to run out of the room, and luckily the door was open. I made my way to the main entrance, opened the door to the sitting room and ran out into the dark. I hid in the garden close to the security house. He was fast asleep and unaware of what was happening. Betsy too was ignorant of what was happening, as well as others, because they believed the master to be a perfect gentleman.  The security guard usually opens the gate at six in the morning. He preferred using outside for his convenience, to urinate. I could not sleep for fright. I was awake all night and I heard the boss muttering some angry words. He did not have the courage to chase me or go round the compound in search of me for fear of attracting attention.  At six a.m. in the morning the security opened the gate to go out. Somehow luck was on my side. He went  went back into his room, and the gate was open. I quietly sneaked out and ran out. This was how I became one of the little ones that slept under the bridge.

AUNTY FROM HELL

 In the Hands of Aunty from Hell

I cried all through the night and was pampered for only that night. As soon as we arrived Lagos, things changed and I saw the true colour of my once kind hearted aunty. 

In her deteriorating health condition, what could mother have done better than letting me go to this aunt’s place? I looked back and saw that perhaps mother might have known that this relative of hers was not the best choice, but her fear of leaving me all alone as she wasn’t going to live for more than a few more days made her took such a decision. 

What could a girl of eight do in such a situation? Frightened and uncertain of my future, here I was in Lagos. The only treasured possession I got from my mother was the wrapper she gave me which I cherished so much. Till date I still have the wrapper. In all my journeys I never lost hope in God.

Betty, besides being the cook, was in charge of cleaning the main house and she would often bring to our room old journals, newspaper and magazines for me to read. She understood my longing to go to school and since I could read at eight years of age, I took the opportunity to go through them after the daily chores. Most times I did not understand what I read, but I kept reading. This I discovered helped in my later years of studies, because some of the difficult words that I came across were not strange to me.

THE REALITY OF DEATH

I lost my father at the age of eight, his properties was shared among his relations. Mother was left with nothing but a small house out of many houses and landed properties my father owned. As I mentioned earlier, my brothers and sisters were shared among our relatives. I being the youngest and the last, was left with my mother who saw to my education. She went through financially challenging times, which meant that there was a threat to my education. Her health deteriorated quite fast due to so much thinking and depression. However, she  managed to mask it with some bravely and motherly love. She reassured me that I would realise my dream to become a neuro-surgeon, with God’s help. I would often played with her by saying to her, ‘Mummy, may I take your temperature? You know as a doctor I do not want you to be sick. I need to give you the medicine you need.’ She would smile and give me a hug.

Leaving Home

One evening, when I was eight years old, a distant relative of my mother, an aunty, came for me, and assured me that I would be looked after like her own child. She said that she was childless and had been married for close to twenty years. She promised my mother that she would assist in my education and well-being, since I would be the child she never had. She came from the city. She was a successful business woman and was married to an influential man. Both were highly respected in the society based on their financial status.

Mother assured me that the aunty would take good care of me, and that she would be waiting for me to come back, on completion of my education and realising my dreams. She was very brave, she gave me a hug and one of her best wrappers as a symbol of her love, protection and prayer. I happily followed this aunty, not knowing that it was to be the last time I would see my mother. I left home with the assurance of coming back to be reunited with her after my studies.

On the evening we left my mother, we spent the night in a beautiful hotel in Enugu. My aunty, to impress my mother, brought new clothes and shoes and gave them to me in her presence. She gave my mother some money and bought her some food items. I never knew that this was to hoodwink my mother’s judgement. 

Unfortunately, the ‘show of gifts’ from such a rich relation, was for my innocent mother a sign that her little baby was in good hands.

MY COUNTRY

The current economic situation in the country has given birth to an increase in various social ills.These  ills are plaguing our society that once valued the sacredness of life and the dignity of human gave room for various social vices in a country I love so much, reflecting on the dreams of my father and his  ancestors.

A country with positive cultural values that are now disregarded at the expense of materialism and  corruption. I ponder on the evils that have plagued this  lovely country called Nigeria, with its beautiful endowment. I sometimes ask myself if it is ‘a sin’ to be a Nigerian. Nigeria has become a country which wages war against itself, where there is  lack of love, moral decadence and religious hypocrisy. Child abuse and a variety of social vices confront us as a nation and the deadliest of these is corruption

because this is the seed that has been germinating for decades and is deeply rooted. This malaise is extremely difficult to uproot though various governments have tried. "What is the essence of trying to prune the branches when the roots are so deep"? This was the question my mother often asked in the course of her several discussions with me

My Family

I was born into a simple family and we were happy with what our parents provided. I was the tenth child and the ‘baby’ of the house. I have three sisters and six brothers. My mother married my father at the age of eighteen. According to her, the marriage was arranged, based on her family history and background of having a good name. A name that one could be proud of as regards to good deeds and morals. My father had asked his mother to search for a girl with good morals, from a good and responsible home. A family that valued reverence and had the fear of God. My mother said these qualities in our present day society were far reached.

There are a number people with misplaced priorities. The ‘get rich quick’ syndrome, seems to be a dominant factor in the lives of many young people. Mother was right on this, as she was on many occassions. I treasured my discussions with my mother, as I learnt a lot about life from her. Her teachings would later on become my strength and guiding force, particularly in difficult moments.If only I could have foreseen the future, I would have prayed, rejected and cancelled the destiny ahead of me. Somehow, with much faith and hope in God, and my mother’s guiding spirit, my dream was eventually realised but at a cost that no child should ever have to pay.